In every moment, with our children, with the world — in every moment with ourselves — the only choice that truly matters is the choice for Love.
The Portal
The Portal reveals how our children’s struggles really mirror our own unhealed wounds — and how transforming ourselves becomes the most powerful parenting we can offer. Blending psychology, neuroscience, and spiritual wisdom, it guides readers through a 12‑week journey of awakening. As you shift, your family shifts, and a new lineage of Love begins.
About the Book
The Portal invites readers into a tender, transformative journey of returning to themselves. The first weeks explore the nature of children — who they truly are — and then gently guide readers back into their own childhood, revealing the roots of inherited patterns. From there, the journey moves into how we unknowingly continue these patterns with our children, and finally into seven weeks of deep healing, reconnection to the soul, and practical shifts that help children overcome their current struggles.
It is not a manual. It is a companion. A guide for parents who sense that the real work is inward, and who long to create a home rooted in truth, connection, and Love.
About Anita
Anita Schmalor lives with her children, partner, and in‑laws in a multigenerational home on the West Coast of Canada. She writes and speaks about love, healing, and spirituality, guided by the belief that Love is what restores us, what makes life joyful, and what allows us to feel at home in the world. Born and raised in Germany, she moved to Canada after meeting her husband in Vancouver and later earned her PhD in Psychology from the University of British Columbia.
Her work began with a painful awakening when her oldest child was three: she realized that her daughter’s struggles were reflections of her own unhealed wounds. That moment opened her eyes to the power of intergenerational trauma — the “darkness” passed down through her lineage — and to the possibility of breaking the cycle. The Portal is part of her own healing, a love project born from the desire to share her authentic perspective — to free herself from hiding her true self — and an invitation for others to find freedom through it.
Anita’s mission is to help parents step into a new way of being — one rooted in truth, connection, and Love — so they can transform their families from the inside out. When she’s not writing, she loves dancing, walking, cooking, gardening, reading, and laughing with the people she loves.
Anita welcomes personal messages, reflections, and questions from readers. If you feel moved to reach out — whether to share your own story, ask a question, or simply connect — she is grateful to hear from you.
Collaborate with Anita
Anita welcomes invitations from podcasters, communities, and organizations who feel aligned with her work. She loves sharing conversations about love, healing, intergenerational trauma, and conscious parenting — and is grateful for every opportunity to connect with others on this path.
Ways Anita Can Join You
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Featured Podcast Appearance: “The Spiritual Work of Raising Humans” — Listen here
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